Supporting your partner
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It is sometimes difficult to know what will help. There is nothing that you say or do that will make Postpartum Mood Disorders (PMD) go away, but it’s important to give your wife or partner as much help and encouragement as you can:
8 ways to help your wife or partner
1) LEARN: Find out about PMD and available supports. For a quick reference, check out our Community Resource page.
2) PRACTICAL HELP: Help with the baby or around the house. Help out when you can, or arrange to get help with cooking, laundry, or house and garden work.
3) GIVE MOM A BREAK: Let Mom sleep or take some time for herself. For some moms, being at home with a baby all day can be difficult. Sometimes they just need time to sleep, go for a walk, take a bath or meet a friend for coffee.
4) DAD & BABY TIME: Plan some time with your baby so you can get to know your baby better. Find a ‘Father and Baby’ group in your local EarlyON Family Centre or community centre. Sometimes just taking the baby out for a walk or to the park will give your wife or partner a break, and will give you some 1 to 1 time with your baby.
5) TIME TOGETHER: Schedule some time with your partner and do something special. When there is a new baby, it’s often difficult for couples to spend time together, but this is important. If you have other children, it’s also important for you and your partner to spend some 1 to 1 time with them as well.
6) ASK: Ask her what she needs. She may not always be able to tell you, but she does need someone to listen and not judge her. Take time to listen.
7) BE PATIENT: Do not say things like “Snap out of it”, or “This should be the happiest time for you”. Tell her that she is doing a good job and it is not her fault.
8) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF: Remember to take time for yourself too and get the supports that you need. Often dads blame themselves, but you did not cause the problem and you can’t “fix” it either.